Philip Charles DeSiato

Philip Charles DeSiato passed away peacefully at the age of 81 on November 9, 2023 at his home in Coventry, Connecticut with his beloved wife of many years Susan (Kilburn) DeSiato by his side. Phil was born on October 12, 1942 in Willimantic and was the loving son of the late Felix and Angeline (Giordano) DeSiato. 

At the early age of 11, Phil worked after school alongside his father at the gravel bank. After graduating from Edwin O. Smith High School, he followed in his father’s footsteps at DeSiato Sand & Gravel, which he later took over after his father’s passing. Phil was a loyal, hardworking, and prominent business owner; his life’s passion was working to make the business and the community thrive. Phil cared about his employees.  You could regularly find him helping them in a loader or shoveling on a job site. He took immense pride in his work and was well respected throughout Connecticut, often going above and beyond to help other business owners and customers whenever he could. Phil retired at the age of 80 and continued to act as a liaison to the new business owner.  From ponds to roadways, his footprint will be everlasting. 

Phil cherished life and lived it to the fullest. He loved a celebration and appreciated the finer things in life like good food and eating at his favorite restaurants, a long bike ride and strolling on the beach, the UCONN men and women basketball games and, most of all, embracing the quiet moments with his family and friends. He adored his wife, as well as his three girls, his grandchildren, and great grandchildren. Phil enjoyed exploring the world with his wife and spending time at their beach house in Rhode Island and their home in Anguilla. He built strong relationships with many people over the span of his life. He was an amazing man of great honor and integrity, a special friend to many. While Phil will be sorely missed, he leaves behind an incredible legacy that will live on in the hearts of all who knew and loved him. And, to know Phil was to love him. 

In addition to his wife Susan, he is survived by his three daughters, Tammy and her husband Marc Trudeau, Melissa and her husband Bob Evans, Kimberly and her husband Cliff Little; his sister Patricia and her husband David Lindbom. He was predeceased by his sister Linda who is survived by her husband David Scarpino. He leaves behind seven grandchildren: Jocelyn and her husband Christos Loukas, Justina and her husband Ryan Ingerson, Katelyn and Myles Byrnes, Kassandra Godin, Benjamin and Victoria Evans, as well as seven great grandchildren. He also leaves behind many cousins and nieces and his mother in-law Nancy Kilburn. 

Phil was a member of the Elks Club in Willimantic for over 60 years. He was a big supporter of his community and surrounding towns. He happily supported various charities, local sports teams, and organizations. 

Relatives and friends may join the family for a Funeral Mass on Thursday, November 16, 2023 at 11:00 AM at St. Mary’s Church, 1600 Main St, Coventry, CT. followed by a burial in St. Joseph's Cemetery in Willimantic.   There will be no calling hours.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to The American Cancer Society.

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